“Jesus says, ‘love your enemies.’ And this word couldn’t have come at a better time. There just seems to be so much hate. And even from the church. Thankfully Jesus comes today with love. He tell us that we cannot hate our enemies, but that we need to love them and pray for them. Yes. Love our enemies. And that means it is far past time in the church that we put aside any words and action that appear to be hateful. We must welcome our enemies into our midst. We must yield to them and their ways. Our way must be above all tolerant and accepting. After all, Jesus says to love, and we all know that to love is to be accommodating in every way. No more words of judgment or rebuke, just warm feelings and a hearty welcome.”
Compare this to the Collect for Enemies in Lutheran Service Book:
O almighty, everlasting God, through Your only Son, our blessed Lord, You have commanded us to love our enemies, to do good to those who hate us, and to pray for those who persecute us. We therefore earnestly implore You that by Your gracious visitation that all our enemies may be led to true repentance and may have the same love and be of one accord and one mind and heart with us and with Your whole Christian Church; through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
So what does it mean to love our enemies?  Does it mean to just accept them for who they are? Does it mean that we forget that they are enemies at all? No, they remain enemies, first and foremost of God, and then of us by connection. That is what makes loving them so hard.   To love them is to truly seek their good. And seeking their good means leading them through the Word to see their sin and know the savior.
Loving enemies is not about supposing enemies to be friends. It is about loving them enough to care that they are perishing. Our main sin is that we often ready to just let them perish without concern. We are so angry at them that we suppose fire is an appropriate climate for those who oppose God and us. Instead, we must love like God, desiring all, even those hating us, to be saved. Just like God did for us.
So, I guess this is more a debate question along with loving your enemies, how are we to understand the psalmists when they many times ask for vengeance upon their enemy? The prayers of those psalmists are imploring God would take the vengeance out on their enemy, and usually for good reason. So is it to be interpreted than that after all the effort to bring the enemy to repentance that God would deal with them in judgement as quickly as God can, and if so is that showing love for their enemy? Just something I pondered about while reading your post… But I totally agree with you, especially that love in our culture has begun to mean so many different things. We forget true love consists of rebuking and discipline as well. Just as a true Father should act with His children whom He loves and whom He doesn’t want to see fall in shame. Just a thought….