Marriages have never existed as trouble free utopias. It has something to do with the people involved, not to mention the interaction between them.   
The only difference was that in the past (perhaps two generations past), when trouble came, there was a overwhelming voice sounded nearly in unison by the surrounding culture, “Stay together.” Now many have claimed that such this consensus voice caused many women to be stuck in abusive and dangerous marriages. I do not doubt that their may be some who stayed and perhaps even died because they remained near to violent men. But the blame for their abuse and demise lays primarily at the hand of the violent men who did such things, not upon the culture’s suggestion that marriages should be saved.
Marriages still do not exist as trouble free utopias. The only difference in that in the present, when one struggling inside their marriage opens their ears to those outside their marriage, they no longer hear a voice beckoning them to stay.  If fact the statistics alone mean that those who struggling spouse who seek advice outside of their marriage are most often talking with those who have already in the past made the choice to leave their spouse. And for whatever reasons, regardless of their misery, most of these people often urge the struggling spouse to leave their spouse and join them in their state. It is as if those who have tasted the spoiled milk of divorce still feel the need to encourage other to drink it.
It will be at least another generation (may God bring it sooner) until a consensus voice might be rebuilt in culture to testify against divorce. It may never happen again. But what must happen is that the baptized must set up to be that voice that culture as a whole used to be. We must seek to be close to those considering divorce and to urge them to stay. And then we must be ready to do what the culture probably never did well. Aid them in staying in every way.
We must do it for them. We must do it for their kids. We must do it for Christ’s sake, to preserve the picture of Christ and his church that God desires to paint through marriage in the world. Be that voice.
